How many times have you spent your precious time decluttering, purging and editing your spaces only to have a tornado of stuff back in your house within a few months?
This phenomenon is what I call "boomerang clutter" and I want to help you deal with it and end it for good.
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EPISODE TRANSCRIPT
Hello there friends!
Welcome back to another episode of the Mother Like a Boss Podcast. I'm Kendra Hennessy, your host. I'm so happy to be back. We took a little break last week from the podcast. There was no new episode last week. If you're listening live, you might be listening months and months from now, but you'll notice that there was a little bit of a gap and that's because my family and I were on vacation.
We were on a nine day vacation at Disney world. Uh, amazing. It was wonderful. I don't, I don't need to even go into how wonderful it was. It was great. It's also exhausting. Anyone that's ever been to Disney and Disney park at all, um, any amusement park, really where you're going on vacation and going to like an amusement park, it's more of a trip, less of a vacation.
I mean you're away. And yes, we did sit by the pool at her. For a little while during, during the days we tried to do that in the afternoon, but we walked almost like 50 miles. Um, it was, it was a little over 50 miles, so it was about seven to 10 miles a day. If we were doing the theme parks. And then a couple of the days we did a little bit lighter stuff and just, you know, sat by the pool so that we could rest our legs and our feet and all that kind of stuff.
But. Uh, we got a lot in, we had an enjoyable time and it was great and I'm glad to be back at it. Um, I really very, very much needed that, that trip. Um, personally, before we left, um, the weeks before we left, I was hitting a burnout. I was hitting a, an emotional of physical. Uh, mental, um, professional and personal burnout.
Just, I was completely uninspired. I didn't want to do any work and it wasn't even like physical work. Like I was still doing stuff for around the house and physically I was doing a lot of stuff and actually physically I didn't feel as burnt out, but I felt very uninspired. I felt like I didn't want to do any work.
I didn't want to record things. I didn't know. Show up. I didn't want to be on Instagram. I didn't want to be doing the things that I normally do because I had just hit this level of, um, burnout, just doing too much and trying to do too much all at once. And I know many of you, if not, all of you can relate to that in some way, shape or form.
Now I realize that not every. It is at a place where they're like, I can just go on a Disney vacation or maybe you do have a vacation planned, but it's not for six months or eight months. Right. But what I do encourage you to do is when you're feeling that level of burnout is to take a step back, do whatever you can to take a break, take a break from the thing that is burning you out, physical, mental, emotional.
Sometimes it means taking a break from certain people because there are people out there that are what we call energy vampires, and they're sucking the energy out of you. And if you can't. Take a break, take a step back, even if it's only 20 minutes. If you can do it for a day, that's great. If you can just take the weekend and say, you know what, I'm putting all this other stuff on the back burner and we're, I'm just going to take a step back, talk to your spouse or partner.
If you have one, talk to your friends and family, see if they can help, but you have to advocate for yourself and I'm going to be talking a lot more about that. I've I've really. Come to terms with a lot of things that I want to be shouting from the rooftops. And one of them is that no one is going to come save you.
You have to save yourself and you have to advocate for yourself, moms, women in general moms. That's what I'm talking to here. Have to step up and start advocating for themselves. If you wait for someone else to advocate for you on your behalf to step up to step in front of you. And say, no, she will not take this anymore.
She needs a break. You'll be waiting forever because that probably isn't going to happen. And it is time that we take agency over ourselves over our mental health, our physical health, or emotional health, our entire wellbeing, and step up and say no more. I'm not going to take it anymore. And I am. I need a break.
That's it plain and simple without the guilt, because guilt is just societal nonsense. That is all societal conditioning. Mom. Guilt is garbage. I want a t-shirt that says that my friend, Shanta who many of you, uh, Shanta Grant of the best today brand, we say that all the time. It's like mom, guilt is garbage.
Um, It's based on societal conditioning that your needs should come last. And if your dare, if you dare put your needs before someone else's or before someone else perceives. That like you perceiving it or somebody else perceiving that you're putting your needs first, then that's selfish and you should feel guilty.
We're done with that. We're it's done. We're at the mother, like a boss podcast and mother like boss brand. We are done with that. We're over it. So if you're someone that is clenching. To, to mom Gill. And you were like, no, I am going to continue to feel guilty and I want to feel guilty. And I don't want to listen to someone.
Tell me not to that. I'm not the place for you because I am not going to advocate for that. I am not going to perpetuate. Extremely toxic messaging that we give to moms that says that you as a mom should put all of your needs. Last baloney. It's BS. I put my needs first because I don't even need, you know what, we're not even going to use.
The cliche is we're not going to use those cliches that we tell people all the time, you have to put your oxygen mask on first, or you have to fill your cup to fill someone else's, you know what I have. Because I deserve a full cup if it pours over to other people. Great. But my entire existence is not based on filling my cup.
So that it can pour over to others. We all deserve full cups because here's the deal when your cup is full, it's this whole idea, but then it pours over to everyone else. Great. No, when my cup is full, I feel good. And when I feel good, When I am showing up, I am a better version of myself. I am the best mom and wife and sister and leader here and business owner and employer.
I am the best of me. I am the best of Kendra when my cup is full. That's why not? That it then pours over and everyone gets all of my stuff in the cup. It's more that I then am able to share. Up. If you think of it in reality, have a cup filled with, say water. I was going to say coffee because I love coffee, but I realized everyone here doesn't love coffee.
So we're going to go with water because you know, everyone needs it to. When you have a cup of water and you're dehydrated, and you're drinking that cup of water, cause you have a full cup aren't you better? You're a B you're like, oof, you ever been dehydrated? You ever felt like just drained and you're, and then you drink out like a cup of water.
You have a full cup and you drink it. And you're like, Man, do I feel better? I'd feel like a new person. Sometimes I feel like that with coffee. Um, but with water now, imagine that instead of a full cup, you get just a couple drops, right? You're going to drink that and you're not going to feel better.
You're only, you only had a couple of drops and now you're also going to feel resentful that everyone else has a full cup, but. Okay. So I didn't mean to go off on this tangent, but it's just worth saying, because I am sorry. It is time for us to step up and advocate for ourselves mamas. No one else is going to do it for us.
It is time to step up, take agency. We are grown adults and we need to start advocating for our health, for our being the complaining on Facebook, the complaining on Instagram, the all the tic talks that I see complaining about our kids and everything. While many times they are. That's not going to change this situation.
It's, it's not, it's just not. And continuing to perpetuate this idea that motherhood has to be a complete hot mess garbage, and you have to just resign yourself to that. You have to resign yourself to being depressed and anxious and resentful and angry and like never nothing ever gets done. And no one ever helps the fact that we continue to perpetuate that it frankly makes.
Infuriated it infuriates me and I am over it. So if you are ready to come along on this journey with me, as we start to advocate for ourselves and start to advocate for our own wellbeing, which will then pour over into everything else. Then you're in the right place. So that's the beginning of this episode that had nothing to do with the actual episode, but it was extremely important.
And it's my platform. And I talk about what I need to talk about here. So there we go. Now let's get into the actual meat of it, which is dealing with boomerang. Which we could totally link to all of this because a lot of times, many of the reasons that we end up with, with clutter in our lives, whether that's physical or digital or mental clutter is because we're not giving ourselves the space to work through the emotions that come up when we're, when we have to declutter.
Right. Cause it just becomes so overwhelming. We end up with masses. We, we amass this stuff. And then we realized we have too much stuff, but dealing with this stuff is too emotional or too much time. And we don't give ourselves the time to do that. And we think I should have already been doing it. You know, let me know if you feel the same way.
I know you can't let me know right now, because this is a podcast and it's one way conversation. But if you follow me on Instagram, over at mother, like a boss, you can tell me there in the DMS. Um, let me know if this, if this resonates with you, this idea that. It's the cycle. We end up with too much stuff.
And then we know we need to get rid of this stuff, but we feel guilty that we haven't gotten rid of this stuff and we feel bad about it. So then it just sits and we amass more stuff and then the mess continues and we keep going in this. All right. So I want to talk about dealing with what I call boomerang clutter.
So years and years and years ago, when I first started mother like a boss, even before that, when I had my cleaning business and did organization and helped people, you know, declutter and systemize and organize their stuff. This is the, the word that always came to mind was boomerang, clutter, which is the idea that when you get rid of things, you ever feel like it boomerangs back in, not the exact stuff.
It's not like I got rid of a pair of pants and the same pair of pants came back. But this idea of the clutter being like a collective thing, and you do all the work, maybe spend a full weekend just full weekend morning tonight. Editing and decluttering and purging and donating and tossing. Maybe you get yourself a dumpster, you start tossing things.
You spend a full weekend and you do the whole basement. And then like a year later, you look downstairs and you're like, where did all of this come from? It's like boomerang, back in, you get rid of it. And the boomerang comes back. It comes back into your home after you've done all that work to get rid of it.
All right. That's what boomerang clutter is. And I want to talk about dealing with that because I do think that it's much different than actually getting rid of our stuff. Just, just getting rid of it. It's why I fully believe that decluttering. Or organizing alone is not the answer they have to work together.
So I know that a lot of people are like, just get rid of your stuff. And then other people are like, organize your stuff. Great, create great systems and color-code everything and label everything, right? It's like, there's two sides to this. Like just live a minimal life and purge everything and, you know, count the amount of socks you have an only have a certain number of shoes and all that stuff.
And there's this, there's this minimal mood. And then on the other side, there's this, this movement of organization will they need to work together. And what I've also found is that they tend to battle each other, you know, the organizers, not all the time, but the organizers I'll see sometimes have content that is like, you know, decluttering alone is not the answer.
And declutter also be like organization alone. Isn't the. You know, you're not organizing, isn't the answer. Stop buying bins and baskets and the organizers. So be like, you need that stuff to keep your stuff organized and it needs to be labeled and color-coded, and I'm just sitting in the middle, like, oh my God, y'all, it's the, it's both.
You need to do both because getting rid of your stuff is extremely important. Organizing clutter is pointless. It is a pointless endeavor. It's like, it's like if you filled up your garbage can every week, and then instead of taking the garbage bag, You just took all of that stuff and then put it back somewhere in your house.
You wouldn't do that, right? No, because it doesn't belong because it's garbage. That's what we do a lot of times when we try to organize before we'd actually we've actually decluttered or edited and managed our stuff. So we definitely want to do that. It's extremely important to get rid of our stuff, but then you also have to come up with some kind of system to deal with.
What's going to come back in, in. And that's where people do that from what I've seen. Sorry, I didn't mean to stutter there, but from what I have seen, this is the place that people tend to have the most trouble. It's fairly easy to get a bee in your bonnet and just go through and like per. I know we've all been there.
Even, even those of us in the th those of you in the audience that may be like, no, decluttering is really hard for me. I guarantee at one point you did like a junk drawer or a pantry or a closet where you're just like, be in my bonnet. Um, I'm doing it. I'm just, I'm sick of all this. And you got rid of all of it, right?
That tends to be the easy part, easiest of all of it, where the problem comes is then how do I maintain that? And how do I ensure that we don't get back to that place again? And that's what dealing with the boomerang. Clutter is all about is creating some kind of system. So what I have are four very simple questions that you can ask yourself when you're doing a decluttering project so that you don't get to the place where it's just boomeranging back in.
Most people think decluttering is just one and done like painting. Like if I were going to paint this room, which I wouldn't, because we painted when we moved. Not even two years ago, but this has been my point. If I were going to paint this room, I'm probably only going to paint it. What, once every decade, maybe even longer for me, I hate painting and I don't want to paint.
I like to pick a color. We picked neutrals and that's it. I'm not one of those people. That's like, let's pick a different paint color every year. Right? And most people don't it's D people think decluttering is like that. They're like, oh, if I just, if I just edit my kids' toys, then I just do it once. Then I can just, it's like one and done.
No, it's not because in less, you never bring another Twain to the house, which at some point in your child's life will probably happen. I mean, it will happen because at one point your kid's going to be old enough where they're not going to have toys anymore. Um, which is crazy to even think about, I have a 15 year old and I think about.
She doesn't have toys anymore. You know, we don't have Barbie is or dinosaur. She used to love dinosaurs or like bugs. She had these like toy bugs or, um, Disney toys or princesses or any of that stuff. She doesn't have any of that anymore. So at one point we got rid of it and it never came back. Right. But she still has stuff.
She still, you know, art supplies and clothes and all that kind of stuff. So we have to go through, she does have to still declutter, just not the toys. Decluttering is not one and done in less. You are never going to bring another thing into your home ever again. And this is the mistake that I see people making when it comes to decluttering and organizing is they think everything is one and done.
If I just declutter, then I'm good. If I just get a good label maker and I just like label all the stuff in my pantry. They all have to work together in a system and it has to be fluid organization. Decluttering. All of that is fluid. It's not static. It's not something you just do once and you never have to do again.
And making that mistake. Means you're going to allow that boomerang clutter back in, it's just going to come back in and you're going to find yourself in the same position over and over again, where you're overwhelmed by the stuff. And then you're like, now I have to take an entire weekend or an entire week or even longer and declutter all of this again.
And you also start to feel like your, the problem. Why can't I get w why can't I just figure this out? It's not you. It's the system. I always say that we as humans are not the problem. We have problems. And usually the problem is a system is a system that just isn't working. And if we can figure out a better system, it will work.
So we also have to let go of the guilt and the shame that we feel around. I just can't, I just can't do this. I'm not good enough to do this going back to advocating for yourself and the guilt that we talked about in the beginning of this, in my little mini rant. We hold on and Harbor all of that. When in reality, it's not our fault.
If you didn't learn this, if we don't know this, how can we do better? And that's why I talk about all of this stuff, because I want us to be able to do better and do it together, but you don't have to feel guilty or ashamed this stuff. Isn't easy. I want to make it easier for you. Okay. So when doing a decluttering project, I have four.
Questions to ask yourself that is going to help you deal with any possible and subsequent boomerang, clutter. That's coming back in. Okay. So you can write these down. Remember, this is a podcast you can always go back. You can always rewind. You can always listen again. Okay. So then the first question I want you to ask yourself is how we might organizing and managing the things I'm keeping in this.
So let's use the same example through all of this. Okay. I want you to imagine that you're going through and you're going to, uh, you're doing a big decluttering project in a toy room and say you have a playroom, big room, small room, whatever. It's just a toy, could be a toy area in your kid's room, whatever you want.
We're gonna use toys as an example here. Cause it's, I feel like it's fairly ubiquitous. You're going to declutter. You're going to go through, like, we have too much. It's like pouring out. There's messes everywhere. It's hard for my kids to clean up. It's hard for me to clean up. It's hard to manage. Great.
So you're going to go through and declutter all of them. You're going to get rid of the things that are broken, that have missing pieces that your kids don't play with anymore, that you can donate that they've outgrown. Great. Love it for you. How are you organizing and managing that stuff that you're keeping though, because one of the reasons that boomerang clutter comes back in there's a few, but one of the reasons is there's no system to manage the stuff that's still.
So if you go through and declutter and there's no actual system for like keeping it organized, then you tend to just bring stuff back in because you know, like I don't care. I'll just stick it. I'll stick it in that corner. I'll stick it over there. When things have a home, when there is an actual system, an organized system, it makes you think a little bit.
About it makes you kind of do a, where is this going to go? Cause we have those cubbies set up for the dolls and the dinosaurs and the art stuff. And you know, the, the doctor stuff that the kids play with. Okay. We have all of that. So if I'm going to bring a new toys, where are they going to go? You know?
And it kind of makes you think a little bit more about it versus the Jeff heaps of. You know, I see this in like a pantry is, are in closets and stuff. It's like when there's just a free-for-all, then it's much easier for clutter to sort of Curry back in because there's no actual system. And so ask yourself, how am I going to manage this?
What is going to be the next step after I get rid of all of this number two, this is a big one. How will I be dealing with new things coming into this? How am I going to deal with it as in, how am I going to, and we, we are going to get into in the next one is going to be all out, buying stuff, like not buying things.
You don't need all that, but this one is more about how am I going to deal with new things? Meaning how, where is it going to go? Um, am I going to. Am I going to have a system where if something new comes in and I'll give you an example in a second, if something new comes in, something goes out. So I do this in my closet.
If I buy new clothes, which I don't do all the time, you know, usually a couple of times a year, I do, you know, oh, I'm going to go and get some new clothes, or if I'm going to do a photo shoot and I want some new. Or if it's a new season and you know, I, I wear clothes until they like rip. Like I wear my clothes out because I don't like to be wasteful with money or with clothing.
Um, so, you know, if I need a new pair of jeans or leggings or whatever, I might go shopping, but here's the. When I put something new in my closet or dresser, something has to come out. That's my deal. Because if I'm going to get a new pair of jeans, then that probably means I'm getting them for a reason.
I'm getting them because my old jeans don't fit or they're worn or they're ripped or they're, whatever it is. Great thing. Get rid of them. Okay. This mentality has honestly changed the way that I do things in my home. And it's the reason I would say it is in the top three reasons why we don't have clutter in our house because we have kind of like a one in one out or even a one in two out rule when it comes to toys, when it comes to clothes, when it comes to any items in our house, I don't want to.
Things. I want to have things that are useful. I don't want to be a collector of things. I want to be someone that is using the things that I have and if I have so much of it that I can't even find it. One of the things that I'm trying to use, then I'm a collector and now I've wasted money. So it's just a difference in mindset and in a change in mindset.
Um, so asking yourself, how you going to deal with something coming into that space? What are you going to do with it? Does it have a home? Does it have a place? Is there a place for kind of like overflow or extras of things? Um, it all depends on what area you're decluttering, but how am I going to deal with stuff?
Number three. What boundaries do I have around what comes back into our home? Big one. So this is where we're thinking about not buying more stuff. Okay. How are you going to put boundaries in place with yourself to not buy. You know, are you going to have, I know that there are people that I know who have taken Amazon off their phone.
You know what, I'm just I'm way too triggered or I'm way too tempted. That's the word I was looking for attempted not really triggered tempted to buy stuff on Amazon. So I'm just going to take it right off my. Um, or not going to certain stores or only scheduling certain stores on certain days or only going with someone, you know, we'll be like, we really don't need that or something, you know, like what boundaries are you going to put into place?
For yourself or for the people in your home. Um, this could mean having go-to things that you say to your kids, if they're asking for stuff and saying, yep, we've actually done a really great job of getting rid of the excess in our home. And that thing just doesn't fit with, with where we're going right now.
That thing just doesn't, it's going to just be another thing in our home. And right now we're not going to do that. Just having those go-to phrases for yourself or for others. The other thing is having a conversation with your family, the family you live with, and then other family, like, if you, this, this is where you have to think about maybe grandparents or family members that are constantly buying stuff for your children or for you having conversations with them.
Is it going to be easy? No. Is it always comfortable? No, but again, advocate for yourself just because something is hard doesn't mean you can. And that it's one of the greatest pieces of advice I can give you. Stop shying away from hard things because it's hard. Life in general is hard. So you have to choose the hard it's like it's hard having clutter.
It's hard dealing with that. It's hard to having all of the stuff that you're cleaning up around in the amount of time and energy that it takes. That's hard. It is also hard to talk to people in your life and be like, We're kind of moving in a more minimal direction or we're trying to get rid of excess stuff and I don't want to deal with it.
So we'd like to maybe ask you not to just buy something for our kids. Every time you come over, that's also hard. You have to choose which of those hards you want to deal with. And sometimes it means choosing something uncomfortable for the outcome. Now, this is, remember this is one podcast episode, our boundaries, very difficult with family.
Absolutely. Do they take time? Absolutely. But this, again, this is just getting into the questions to ask, like, what boundaries do I even want to have asking yourself these, and even writing them down so that you can know what the next step is. All of this doesn't have to be done in a day. Okay. And it can be done in steps.
Remember it doesn't have to be a big leap. It can just be one small step, but you have to know what boundaries you're going to have in place or else that stuff's just going to come right back into the house. You're going to spend all that time. Editing out all of your kids' toys. And if you're not having the conversation with say your mother-in-law, then she's just going to keep buying stuff for your kids and it's going to come right back.
So it's just knowing what boundaries you have to have, what conversations you're going to have, and also being prepared for the fact that people aren't always going to like your boundaries. Oh, well, that's their problem. That's not yours. Your boundaries are yours and their feelings are theirs. Their feelings are valid and your boundaries are valid.
Both can be true at the same time. And then finally, number four, what routines can I put into place to make editing a part of our life? So it doesn't get to the point where it's overwhelming. Yeah. This is where you have to say, what routines are we going to have in place to kind of get rid of things on a regular basis.
Isn't going to be once a month. We're just going to go through the house. Say, Hey, is there anything we don't need anything we can donate? Is it going to be twice a year? Maybe you do a summer and a winter purge, but kind of like a spring cleaning. Isn't going to be something that instead of worrying about the decluttering, it's like maybe you have really maybe focus more on the routine, the boundary routine, where it's like, we're just going to make sure we don't bring stuff into the house and then we won't have to declutter as much.
Um, maybe it's having your kids get on board. What kind of routines? Are you going to have in place? So for us, it's a few different things. Number one, we try very hard not to bring excess stuff into the house. I've talked about this before, but like paperwork, for example, you know, where I opened my mail right over the recycling bin.
I don't go get my mail unless I can do. I don't go out to my mailbox and get my mail two seconds before I need to leave the house so that it ends up on the countertop to deal with later. Cause you know, what's going to happen later. I'm not going to want to deal with it. And then the next day, the same thing's going to happen.
And the next day, the next day, and three months later, you have giant stacks of mail. That's how that happens because it's just stuff that isn't dealt with. Don't get your mail, unless you can deal with your mail. It can pile up for two days. You'll be fine. Most things that come in the mail are not like, if you don't deal with it this second, it's the end of the.
99% of stuff in there. It's not like that. And 99% of the stuff we've gotten in the mail is garbage and spam and, and just garbage stuff anyway. Right. So I don't deal. I don't get it unless I can deal with it. And then I open it over the recycling bin because then I don't have to worry about papers coming into the house that we don't need.
So I've already cut out like 95 to 99. Of the excess. So that's a routine that I have in place. It's a habit that I have that eliminates the clutter before it even happens. I'm being proactive about it versus reactive about it because proactivity is making sure it never comes in the house in the first place.
Reactivity is like, now I need to deal with it because it's in the house. You can always be proactive things or you need to remove things from your house, your kids grow, you know, you can't be like, well, I'm just gonna buy the size that I think my kids will need when they're 18 and fully grown, it doesn't work that way.
So that's why having a routine in place to stop. You know, once every six months, I'm just going to spend 20 minutes going through their clothes, getting rid of them or putting them in a bin and labeling it to put down in our basement or up in our attic or in a closet somewhere for the next kid. Cause we have multiple children and we pass things down great.
Or I'm going to put it in a bag, put it in the back of my car and I'm going to drive it immediately to, to the donation center. Not I'm just going to drive it around for three months. And every time I pass by and be like, oh, I need to stop, but I can't right now. Like put it on your calendar. That's a routine.
That you can get into, um, you can do it for certain areas of your home, or you can do it just all at once. You can say, Hey, we're just going to do. Twice a year or once a quarter, we're going to have like a day, one day that we just go, we're just going to do a purge. We're going to go through and get rid of things we don't need.
Um, and then we're going to haul it all off or put it in the garbage can or send it to donation. Um, but you get to decide what that routine is for you, because it greatly depends on your home, on your children, on your situation, um, on where you are in your. Season you're in right now of your life. Okay.
But you have to know if you want to really deal with that boomerang, clutter. That fourth question is what routines are going to make it possible because it's not one and done. And those routines are really a huge part of ensuring that you don't get back to a place where it's super overwhelming again.
All right. I just want to yet again, say to you. That this stuff isn't easy. It's not easy. I know for some of us, like for me, I'm go, I will say this so that I can be honest and transparent because I think that this is very important. Decluttering is not hard for me. I am ruthless. I don't care about stuff.
I don't care about getting rid of things, but what if I need it later then? I guess I'll get it later. If I got rid of something that I need, I'll borrow it from her. I'll buy it again. I'll rent it. I don't care. It's not that big a deal to me. I just, I would rather be surrounded by the things I love and not be overwhelmed by stuff.
Clutter stresses me out. It makes me anxious. It makes it harder for us to maintain our home. And I don't like the. My kids don't and my husband really doesn't either. Definitely doesn't. So for me, decluttering is not a difficult thing because I just, if I feel like there's too much stuff in an area, I just go get a garbage bag and I go put all the stuff in and then it's out done.
We're done. However, I know that that is not the same for every. And I know that there are things that I find very difficult and it's really, um, it's harder for me trying to think of the right way to say this. That it's harder for me. When someone that I look up to someone that's mentoring me, something, someone I'm listening to makes it seem like it should just be easy for everyone because it's easy for them just because it's easy for one person.
Doesn't make it easy for everyone. And what I want to do here is make it easier. Because the truth is that decluttering may never be easy for you for a variety of reasons. You may be very emotionally attached to stuff for something because of something that happened in your childhood. There could be a lot of reasons that that is happening.
It could be because your partner holding onto things. And so you're in this battle. There could be a lot of reasons. I don't want you ever to feel like this should just be a up, if you can't do it easily, like, what are you even doing with your life? We don't play that game here. Instead, these are all things to make it easy.
Or I'm all about the ER at the end, not easy but easier, not just simple, simpler, just something that is boy, this felt like a, it was like at a 10 on the hard scale. Announced that an eight. That's great. That's what I want for you, but you don't have to feel ashamed or guilty that you haven't done it yet.
That there's still too much stuff that you feel like you don't even know where to start. That's what I'm here to help you with. Okay. That's what this podcast is here to help you with. That's what my course Homemakerish U™ is here to help you with. You can visit homemakerishu.com
That's what we're here to do is support you through the things that feel difficult to make it easier for. All right. So I hope that this has been helpful for dealing with that boomerang, clutter, give those questions some thought, the next time you go into a decluttering project and I can almost guarantee you that it will make it much easier.
Again, easier for the boomerang clutter, not to end up back in your home. If you are on Instagram. As I said, come over and give me a follow at mother like a boss. I am in my DMS all the time and it's not my team. It is me. So say, hello, take a screenshot of this, share it out. We are reaching so many more people with this podcast lately.
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It's how we're going to reach more people with this message. All right, friends. Thank you so much again, I appreciate every single one of you and as always go forth and mother like a boss.
